[Blog] How to love yourself, unconditionally…

Although people can tell you over and over again how much they support you, sometimes it is not all that you need. Despite the overwhelming amount of love from friends or family, it just doesn’t suffice. Our most important supporter is ourselves and at the end of the day, that’s really all we have. Sometimes, we genuinely forget that we need to love and support ourselves above all else. Today, that is not the case…

Dear me,

I’m sorry for being so critical. I know how much potential I hold and I fear that if I do not push myself I will fall short. I’m sorry for the headaches I have caused because nothing I do is good enough for me. I could always do better. 

I’m sorry for stressing out over things that now have no meaning and for being cruel, so so cruel to myself over how I look. I am strong, independent, and beautiful. I have so much to offer to anyone who enters my life. 

I have a kind heart and a genuine smile that someone, someday, will fall in love with. I will be successful and accomplish anything that I put my mind to because failure is not something that I am familiar with. 

I will stop being so hard on myself but rather pick myself up and brush myself off when it seems as though the world has turned against me. I will learn to love myself, every scar and imperfection, because if I love myself then I do not need anyone else to love me. 

I will not lose sight of how important I really am nor will I discourage myself when I make mistakes. I will learn to use those mistakes as stepping stones to something great. I will put myself first, because there is no one more important to me than myself. 

I will make sure that above all things I am happy and if I ever find that I am not I will do whatever I can to find happiness again. 

However, I will not rely on temporary or material things. I promise to be the friend to others that I would want for myself and I will not get upset with others if they do not have the same heart as I do. 

Most importantly, I promise to treat myself as kindly as I would treat someone else. I will learn to accept compliments from others and think as highly of myself as some say that they do. 

From this day forward, I will love myself unconditionally. I will not allow myself to long for the things that I do not have, but rather appreciate the things that I do. 

I will remind myself daily how blessed I am and thank God for the life he has given me. I will thank my parents for getting me to where I am and tell me friends how much I appreciate them. I will not take anything for granted or forget where I came from. I will accomplish great things. It won’t happen overnight or even in the next few years. 

In fact, the journey will be ugly and it most certainly will not be easy. 

However, one day, I will look back and be proud of myself for what I have done. I will be successful. I do not know, yet, where I will end up but I do know that it is going to be great. 

It will be worth it. Yes, it will be so worth it.

I will not give up on myself, there is too much greatness ahead of me.

Love always,

Yourself.

by Angkita Dyail